By Dr. Synesio Lyra, Jr.
There are situations in life which are difficult to resolve. Even then, they are not impossible to eradicate. People cannot hold on to past miseries and expect a joyous present.
Garbage cannot be accumulated for years without causing toxic, even fatal, effects on one’s self and on others. People cannot hold on to bad memories or to accumulated resentments and still demand happiness now. That won’t ever happen! The retention of poison anywhere shall always adversely affect the surrounding environment.
A wise individual fully recognizes that there comes a time when the only sane attitude is to exclaim: “Enough is enough! I must move on without being bound to all the extra baggage which I’ve allowed to accumulate in my life; the toxic levels I have permitted to develop are truly killing me and adversely affecting some of my relationships.”
Any advance in life requires a final farewell to what cannot contribute to a healthy and meaningful present or future. Many times, even good things have to be left behind in favor of something much better which can contribute to a progressive life of meaning. Nobody can advance in any endeavor while chained to anything, especially to unpleasant experiences of the past. The secret is to let go!
Many people endure a miserable existence by holding grudges, by accumulating resentments, by retaining hatred to individuals and situations which caused them distress in the past. If retaliation, and an unforgiven spirit prevails, nothing shall ever be resolved, and the misery one already experiences shall only retain its grip and augment in its intensity. So, why remain in shackles for so long when true freedom can be your portion?
There needs to be a greater sense of urgency in dealing with these matters, by people prone to choose slavery instead of the enjoyment of full liberation. Nothing shall ever be resolved when a spirit of vengeance, accusation, fault-finding prevails. What one inwardly wants to see resolved will simply increase its hold on the person dominated by self-righteousness.
Sadly, some people also go to their grave with unresolved issues which never required resolution to start with. Many fail to recognize that sometimes the obvious is not the actual. Furthermore, one’s point of view depends on one’s point of viewing. Avoid irrational thoughts, attitudes, and self-serving suspicions and unreal expectations!