Published On: Mon, Jul 28th, 2014

Being Wise in your Relationships

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By: Whit Criswell


Every person you work with is unique.  Each is a complex blend of background, temperament and giftdness.  This fact is the root of most relational conflict.


Uniqueness causes all kinds of communication problems – we often simply don’t  understand each other.


Wise managers recognize and value diferences in people…and they relate to individuals in customized ways, rather than relating to everyone in the same style.   They understand that it takes “diferent strokes for diferent folks”.


Would you like to be wise in relating to people?   The Bible tells us the characteristics of genuinely wise people.   “Wisdom is pure…peaceloving and courteous, it allows discussion and is willing to yeld to others;  it is full of mercy…it is wholehearted and straightforward and sincere.   (If you) are a peacemaker you’ll plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of goodness” (James 3:15-17 – LB).


From these  verses we learn six ways to be wise when we deal with others:




…I Won’t compromise my integrity (“wisdom is pure”) – I’ll be honest with you.  I’ll keep my promises and commitiments to you.


…I won’t antagonize your anger.   (“wisdom is peaceloving”) – I’ll work at maintaining harmony.   I w’ont push your hot buttons.


…I won’t minimize your feelings (“wisdom is courteous”) – I may not feel as you do, but I won’t ignore or ridicule how you feel.


…I won’t criticize your suggestions (“it allows discussion”) – I can desagree with you without being disagreeable.


…I won’t emphasize your mistalkes (“full of mercy”) – Instead of rubbing it in, I’ll rubb it out!


…I won’t discuise my motivations (“wholehearted …and sincere”) – I’ll be authentic with you.  I won’t “con” or manipulate you.


Until next week! 

Whit Criswell is a former banker, coach, and businessman who understands the stress and pressures of the workplace. He lives in Lexington, Kentucky, U.S.A., with his wife Sandra, teenage son, and daughter.  .

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