Why It’s Important to Love Yourself

You are not successful in dating despite thousands of articles you read on how to woo a girl? You feel yourself like a loser? Probably when you like some girl and want to ask her out, your inner voice starts repeating the mantra “It won’t work, it won’t work, it won’t work”. Well, your problem is pretty obvious, and no matter how funny it may seem, you just don’t love yourself.

Although, it is believed that this problem is mainly female, men do suffer too from not loving themselves. You might have had some relationships that quickly ended, and most likely you’re blaming your partner for that. The reason for your break-up was that she didn’t know what she wanted. If so, and you have doubts about how honest you are when stating that, this can be the first symptom that you have troubles with loving yourself.

Other side effects and symptoms of not loving yourself may include you never being happy with your lifestyle and yourself. Most likely you consider your life to be boring. Because nothing really changes in your life. You have same old friends that you had five or ten years ago. You conversational topics with friends are still the same. Moreover, your friends also lead the same life that led five or ten years ago. This gives you the comfort, that everything is okay, or at least everything is supposed to be that way.

You also don’t like your job or consider yourself not being very good at it. But instead of quitting it, you continue doing your work or pretending to do it, with hopes that sooner or later you’ll get fired. Justifying your attitude that there is some mysterious sense in all of your miseries. You also believe that everything will miraculously change when you find the girl. But chances to find the girl with such life-attitude are equal zero.

The real problem that, although unsatisfied you like the way things are going in your life. This is your comfort zone. Nobody said that your comfort zone needs to be comfy. Actually it can be as uncomfortable as you allow it to be. And the reason for you sitting in your pit is because you don’t love yourself.

Probably one of your exes told you that you love yourself too much, but the real reason that you don’t love yourself at all. That’s why you are so egocentric. And, although it sounds cliched, until you learn to love yourself you won’t be able to love anybody else, thus all of your relationships are doomed.

The solution to this problem is actually very easy. You need to do something to be proud of yourself. If you are unsatisfied with your life, think what requires changing in it. Maybe you should quit your job? Nobody asks you to stay unemployed, just quit and find the new one that will meet your expectations.

Another thing that may require changing is your friends. Have you ever noticed that you’ve gone out of touch with some of your friends who are more successful? Well, probably you should stick with them, rather with the losers who enjoy being losers.

Just make few changes and soon you will want to change everything, and as soon as you start loving yourself, you will be able to build a healthy relationships with any girl you want.

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