Published On: Mon, Jan 30th, 2012

Guys Being Stupid

By: Dr. Mike Gora

Twice during the last two weeks young women have come into our offices for help in dealing with their physically or emotionally abusive husbands. This would not have been particularly unusual except for the fact that at the time they arrived in our office both husbands were in jail for ignoring a court ordered injunction.

Before seeing us the women had legitimate claims of spousal abuse and had found help at the South County Courthouse in Delray. In both incidents the duty judge had issued injunctions, removing the respective men from their homes with a court order clearly describing what they could and could not do:

Do not be within 500’ of your mate, at her home, job or elsewhere.

Do not communicate with her in any way, directly or through another person.

Do not go to your home to pick up some clothing and other personal property unless you bring a law enforcement officer with you.

Both men, within hours of being served with the court’s injunction violated the injunction. In both cases the woman went back to the courthouse, filed more papers, and received a second order from the duty judge agreeing that the men had violated the original order.

It is a misdemeanor to violate a domestic violence injunction, and unlike most other “minor” crimes” bond can be denied, until a further hearing is held.

Both men were found by sheriff’s deputies, arrested, and now reside at the county jail on Gun Club Road. Both men have (had?) jobs.

In each case children were witnesses to the sadistic conduct of their father towards their mother. In both cases the men were so clever that they virtually delivered themselves to jail by their failure to follow the court’s orders.

While women occasionally commit domestic violence upon the men in their lives the statistics reflect that 90% of all such cases are based upon the abuse of a man on a woman. The question remains, “why? The answer is evident, the guys are usually bigger, and on one level or another are truly inferior to their mates in ways that count like empathy, sympathy, and intelligence.

I am not suggesting that all men are prone to such conduct, to the contrary, most have never and will never abuse their wives and lovers, but to those few who do there is one thing that can be said, “GUYS…STOP BEING STUPID OR YOU WILL LAND IN JAIL.”

Michael H. Gora has been certified by the Board of Specialization of The Florida Bar as a specialist in family and matrimonial law, and is a partner with Shapiro Blasi Wasserman & Gora P.A. in Boca Raton. Mr. Gora may be reached by e-mail at mhgora@sbwlawfirm.com.and (561) 477-7800.