Published On: Mon, Jun 2nd, 2014

Choose Acquaintances Wisely!

By Dr. Synesio Lyra, Jr.

People are good! But people can also be very bad! At first it may appear a contradiction, but we all know that such is the case. It’s not the appearances that count but the reality that can be gradually discovered.

One can never find that out, one way or another, without maintaining a measure of contact with others, and using every possible observation and evaluation tool available. It’s not that hard to reach a reasonable, safe conclusion about other people without being judgmental or too intrusive!

It’s important not to approach anyone with pre-conceived ideas about that person. Even if you may dislike certain features you readily observe in that individual, spend more time with him or her before arriving at a final conclusion about the person.

Always remember that people can be far better than you imagine, just as many can also be completely the opposite of whatever good impressions you first detect in one or another. Therefore, it’s only by spending some time with someone, in different settings and circumstances, that you can more readily observe and assess the character, and other essential features of a fellow human’s projections!

If you are to obtain a solid evaluation about anyone, attempt to read that person’s heart rather than merely depend on externalities, for the latter can be mere façades which don’t reveal one’s true self. Furthermore, people are usually more than what their outward shell portrays them to be.

For that and other reasons, don’t allow your first impressions to be the sole, decisive factor to determine if you should pursue more interactions with that person, or even commit yourself to a permanent relationship, of one kind or another. Avoid reaching your conclusions in a superficial way so as to avoid unnecessary distresses right away, or later on.

Although you can, and should, consult others about their insights on others you wish to befriend, or simply develop a cordial, occasional relationship, don’t limit yourself only to what others may report. Some people may unwisely think too much of someone who doesn’t deserve that “grade,” while others may be jealous, resentful, or carry unwarranted personal grudges toward that person. Just move with caution, and let reason aid you via careful, lengthy observation! Ultimately, only you can reach a final conclusion; just do it with utmost caution!

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