Stop Accusing Anybody Else!

By Dr. Synesio Lyra, Jr.

I have repeatedly affirmed, in these pages, and elsewhere, that in this world there is no one who is perfect, nor capable of reaching perfection in anything while on earth. Yet, such truth doesn’t seem to be sufficiently understood by certain people.

“People who really feel adequate and happy within themselves” declared a contemporary author, “have no need to push other people around or to be critical of them.”  In fact, the secure persons are not the ones who do the latter part of the sentence above; it is the frustrated, the insecure, the trouble-makers who are more prone to promote destructive criticism!

Several people can accurately recognize a great deal that occurs in the world as undesirable, even quite bad, though they fail to recognize that they, themselves, are at least partially responsible for much of that. It’s not fair nor proper to attribute every wrong only to other people!

The reality is that most often, accused persons have nothing specifically to do with that, even though every single mortal shall consistently make his and her mistakes as long as life lasts. Blame is never transferable; each individual must be fully responsible for one’s personal flaws and mistakes, not for those of others!

People need to understand that shifting blame to someone else will not solve the problem at hand, nor exonerate the accuser from ultimate responsibility. One can never elevate self at the expense of an innocent victim; truth always prevails!

Quite often, persons who think of themselves as incapable of doing anything wrong, even slightly, are more often the ones on whom ultimate blame shall repose on a variety of situations and interactions. A “holier-than-thou” posture provides no sanction, nor safety to actions done by the one who operates that way, nor guarantees that everything is fully acceptable!

An unfortunate problem is that some people are too proud and arrogant in never admitting even the possibility of committing mistakes. Yet, whatever edifice they’ve erected in the sand will most assuredly crumble completely at some point!

Learn to do what is expected of you; do it with excellence and zeal, in as timely a manner as you can. If you concentrate on your personal duties and the good quality you desire to exhibit, you can refrain from hunting for faults that others may have committed. After all, it’s none of your business anyway!